Not Everything in Moderation
A more modern and controversial viewpoint on substance abuse and addiction is moderation management. As a therapist and counselor, I have been asked about my viewpoint on this very topic. I hope this ...
The Success of Failure
We value success. Nobody, who sets out to reach a goal, wants to fail, but failure is inevitable. Part of being human is being fallible. If you can't take anything else away from growing older, take a ...
Learning How to Feel
A common, yet underestimated problem that many of my clients face is learning to accept and experience emotions. Feeling "numb" is something that many people who enter into therapy discover as a probl ...
When To Say “It’s Over”
Whether or not to let go of a long-term relationship can be an extremely difficult decision to make. There are many aspects to relationships that complicate this decision. Many times people have child ...
When It’s Time to Say “I’m Sorry”
Pride can be one of the most difficult things to overcome. When we were growing up we are taught to "feel proud" about ourselves and what we do. But when does pride cross the line to stubbornness? Thi ...
Improving Communication for an Improved Sex Life
Some couples do not have sex, and they have no relational problems because of this. However others struggle with their sexual relationship to such a degree that they are willing to end their relations ...
Rising Above Addiction as a Label
Knowing whether or not you are addicted to a particular behavior is not always easy to identify. Part of the problem with this lies in the vagueness of how addiction can be defined. This is one of the ...
Anxiety and Control
Anxiety and feeling a lack of control in your life are highly correlated. I have yet to meet someone who is coping with anxiety who feels comfortably in control of their lives. Think about the differe ...
Mid-Life Struggles of Coming Out
Coming out to friends and family can be a struggle no matter how old you are. But I have found it extremely difficult for individuals who are middle-aged. There are many reasons for the increased diff ...
Gay, Single… and “Old”?
Approaching 30 can be intimidating for a gay man, and 40 has been described to me as good as “dead” in the gay community. What are these cultural issues about? Many gay men struggle with feeling lonel ...