How Do I Bring Up Couples Therapy To My Partner?
Talking to your partner about couples therapy is one of the bravest, yet terrifying things that you can do. Many people are very fearful of what bringing up relationship counseling will do to the re ...
Mystery Can Improve Your Sex Life
In our culture, we largely view relationships as something that will complete us. We find another person, we fall in love, and we synthesize our existence with that person. This merging with another p ...
Surviving a Valentine’s Day When Single
Valentine's Day can be a lot of fun for many people. However, for those who aren't in relationships, days such as this can bring a great deal of shame. If you're single at this time of the year, you c ...
Why I Work With Sex Addiction
I was recently asked why I want to work with sex addicts, their partners and their families. There is no single or simple answer and as I reflected on the question I found four specific factors and o ...
Showing Up In Your Relationship
Many relationships end in complete chaos, but why do some just fizzle out? Long-term relationships are hard work. In the beginning, there's a clear excitement that makes it easy for you to put a lot o ...
Unhealthy Boundaries in Relationships
The development of boundaries begins early in life and is reinforced by the relationships we form during the remainder of our lives. As a child, you expect your environment to provide you with your wa ...
Who is an addict?
“How do I know that I am an addict?” Over the course of a week, I hear this question at least 15 times. It is a very valid question. In the recovery community, there is a saying, “if you have to as ...
Imposter Syndrome
Imposter syndrome was first coined in the article, by Pauline Clance and Suzanne Imes, “The imposter Phenomenon in High Achieving Women: Dynamics and Therapeutic Intervention” published in the Journal ...
Restoring Trust After An Affair
In a previous article I talked about how couples can survive an affair. One major aspect of successful resolution is the restoration of trust. The number one question I’m asked by people recoveri ...
No More “Under the Radar”
Stepping out from under the radar can be an enormous risk. Allowing yourself to be noticed for who you are, and what you actually feel, can elicit criticism, judgment, and blame. Therefore, actually a ...