Rebuilding Connection after Betrayal
Rebuilding Connection after Betrayal After a betrayal occurs in a relationship, it can feel impossible to reconnect. Many relationships and couples who have this experience come to realize that they ...
The Porn Addiction “Fix” Illusion
The Porn Addiction "Fix" Illusion Almost every time I am working with a client who has a porn addiction or who is dealing with a compulsive pornography problem, they contend with an illusion. Ther ...
The Meaning Under the Surface and How it Prevents You from Reaching Your Goals
The Meaning Under the Surface and How it Prevents You from Reaching Your Goals Whether you're aware of it or not, there is meaning that follows you around. It's meaning about yourself. It impacts the ...
Finding Your Calm When You’re Vulnerable
Finding Your Calm When You're Vulnerable There is no doubt about it. The last few months have been some of the most intense that we've experienced. Our climate and the coronavirus situation have made ...
Emotions and Logic: Getting Them to Work Together
Emotions and Logic: Getting them to Work Together Did you know it's difficult and sometimes impossible to experience intense anger, sadness, or anxiety and think logically at the same time? I'm not ...
The Biggest Myth about Sex Therapy
The Biggest Myth about Sex Therapy It can be difficult to identify what actually happens in sex therapy . I get a range of questions about sex therapy each week. Some ask if sex therapy is somethin ...
Letting Go of Who You Want Someone to Be
Letting Go of Who You Want Someone to Be Whether it's our romantic partners, our friends, or our parents, it's human to want them to fit into a space that is compatible with your life. Sometimes we c ...
Coping with Pressure to Overcome Sexual Avoidance
Coping with Pressure to Overcome Sexual Avoidance When I'm working with people in sex therapy who are dealing with sexual avoidance, there is often a lot of pressure to enter back into a sexual ar ...
Snapping Out of Denial and Into Reality
Snapping Out of Denial and Into Reality "Snap" is such a powerful word. And yet it's a word we use when we talk about that feeling when we come out of denial. It's also a perfect word in many ways ...
When Numbing Fear Turns to an Addiction
When Numbing Fear Turns to an Addiction We all numb. Stress, anxiety and fear can all get us to use food, sex, alcohol, drugs, and entertainment to help us cope with uncertainty and difficult times. ...