Coping with Pressure to Overcome Sexual Avoidance When I’m working with people in sex therapy who are dealing with sexual avoidance, there is often a lot of pressure to enter back into a sexual arena. Some of that pressure can be self-inflicted. It’s important to remember that not much changes
Building Connections by Ending Bullshit Whether you’re making up bullshit, or believing it from another source, it can lead to a lot of disconnection. At it’s worse, it’s so toxic that it can ruin friendships and relationships. In this video, Dr. Michael Salas talks about why confronting bullshit stories and
Managing Sex Addiction Recovery During the COVID-19 Crisis This is a Youtube video that James West and Michael Salas collaborated. In this video, there is a discussion about considerations for people who are in recovery for sex addiction during the COVID-19 pandemic. In this video, Michael and James discuss the
Snapping Out of Denial and Into Reality “Snap” is such a powerful word. And yet it’s a word we use when we talk about that feeling when we come out of denial. It’s also a perfect word in many ways the change between denial and reality is that fast. I
When Numbing Fear Turns to an Addiction We all numb. Stress, anxiety and fear can all get us to use food, sex, alcohol, drugs, and entertainment to help us cope with uncertainty and difficult times. In fact, numbing is largely human as it is a way of dissociating from situations
Acceptance and Coping with Stress During the COVID-19 Crisis Hello, Michael Salas from Vantage Point Counseling and I am finally making a new video. So, if you’ve ever tuned into this channel before, or you have watched any of my youtube videos before, you know that it’s been quite a while since I have made any
My Role as a Sex Therapist in the Time of the Coronavirus I was recently asked what do I think my role as a sex therapist is at this time. That was a scary question for me because I wasn’t sure if I had an answer or even more scary
The Limits of Control in Extreme Vulnerability In this post, I’ll be using a term that could be controversial, which is “faith.” I want to begin with the disclaimer that faith is often used in relation to religion. I have no issues with people practicing any religion that feels authentic to
“Does Social Distancing Mean I Shouldn’t Have Sex?” COVID-19 (“the coronavirus”) is leaving a lot of confusion. As a sex therapist, I thought there was a topic that needs to be named and discussed. Really, we just don’t know a ton about this virus and new information keeps coming every
Coronavirus Fears and Other Feelings: Coping with Uncertainty It’s a challenging time to stay balanced and focused when there is a threat like COVID-19 out there. Few of us can recall such major disruptions of our lives and our daily routines. I know I’ve had a lot of different emotions