There is a great deal of harm that can take place from becoming a workaholic, but this is often disguised in our romanticization of serving our workplaces well. I am certainly not suggesting that you should be lazy or careless about your job. However, there is a middle ground here, which often gets lost in fear about not being enough to your supervisor, clients, or even your co-workers.
There is a cycle that often happens when you fail to hold personal boundaries with your workplace. When the perception that you wish others had about you doesn’t match how you feel like you’re being treated, you can fall into a maladaptive work and perfectionistic cyclone. This is where workaholics work harder to become noticed, thanked, recognized, or praised. However, this rarely works out. The lack of recognition and appreciation continues, because those around you have become dependent on the extra work that you’re doing. They don’t notice it at all. To further perpetuate this cycle, in the rare situations that someone does notice, many workaholics don’t feel like it was genuine or that the thankfulness was adequate for the work accomplished. The times where you went unnoticed still stand strong, and the cycle then continues. The bar then gets lifted again, with the thinking that if you further increase the threshold of work, then someone will notice you in a way that makes you feel worthy.
Another problem is in how we culturally view workaholism. On the surface this appears admirable, and in the beginning, the efforts are all based in good intentions. Boundaries are confusing in this way. Often times good intentions lead us to avoid confronting an issue that needs to be confronted. Being uncomfortable with confrontation, especially if it’s with a supervisor who could terminate you from your job, is understandable. It is true, that you do have to be cautious when confronting supervisors about issues, because not all supervisors are open to feedback. Some people, though, do not communicate their problems to the ones who can actually make a change for them, yet continue to expect these things to change, and then get frustrated when everything remains the same.
Workaholism is a serious issue that is often disguised as ambition and altruism. In order to take control of these issues, finding other social supports is vital. Talk to someone at work who you can trust and who can make change, or at least will listen to you. Be careful not to become passive-aggressive by trying to make changes through manipulating others to feel sorry for you. Find a therapist to help you identify what things are missing in your life to learn more about how you go to this place. Over time, and a lot patience and practice, you will regain a balance in your life and learn to maintain this balance.