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Avoiding Conflict: 5 Reasons Why It Doesn’t Save But Sabotage Relationships We cherish our relationships during their “honeymoon” phase because they, typically, are all about discovering new things about one another, bounding over similarities, and having fun. Then, one day, conflict arises. Not a little argument but a real conflict.
Having Trouble Accepting Yourself as Transgender or Non-Binary? – What You Can Do Society has made great leaps and bounds towards accepting people who identify as transgender or non-binary. Yet, although there is growing advocacy and pride for transgender and non-binary communities, it does not mean that your individual road
Ways that Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy Can Help Gay and Lesbian Couples by Ian Hammonds When coming into therapy, many couples want to know how their couples therapy will be approached. Couples come into therapy for a variety of reasons. Hurt feelings, resentment, betrayal, and ambivalence. One of the approaches
Identifying and Overcoming BS to Save Your Relationships It’s almost impossible to avoid letting our current cultural and political climate seep into our relationships. Maybe we’re wired to focus on opposites and ignore the middle. We can jump to conclusions and forget how complex the middle really is. Or maybe
Unhealthy Habits: How to Recognize When They Prevent You From Being You Unhealthy habits come in a wide variety. Some habits, such as biting your nails, may not seem as detrimental as lying or an addiction. Because there are varying degrees of how your unhealthy habits affect you, it can
Overcoming Betrayal and Entering Therapy For so many partners of addicts, entering into therapy can seem so overwhelming. It feel like you’re just trying to hold the fabric of your life, and maybe even your family together. The idea of participating in therapy can be so overwhelming. It can feel
Gay, Monogamous Relationships. A Sex Positive Perspective Our society generally props up monogamy as the gold standard of relationships. I’m not saying monogamous relationships can’t work. But it’s also good to identify a relationship style that would work best for you now and continue having ongoing discussions about boundaries, desires,
Which Is It? Love or Love Addiction? – 6 Ways to Tell the Difference Love. It is the thing we write songs, poems, and stories about. It is the thing we’ll eat a tub of ice cream and sob over. The thing we’ll jump into despite how much pain it
Shame and Sexual Dysfunction In our sex therapy work with sexual dysfunctions, we find that shame is not far behind. We are taught that sex should just work. If you love someone and you’re attracted to them, your body should just do what you want it to do, right? Unfortunately,
The Power of Talk: How to Improve Your Ability to Voice Your Concerns You are sitting at your desk, rocking nervously in your chair, replaying the conversation between you and a coworker on a loop. You should say something, something to express your discomfort with the statements made, but how?