Vantage Point Counseling Services Blog
This page is dedicated to discussing current events and topics of interest relating to psychotherapy, counseling, and other advice and help for issues relating to anxiety, depression, substance abuse, relationships, and sexual issues. Please feel free to contact me with questions or comments. This page will be updated often, so please check back frequently. Click on the title to be directed to the article you are interested in reading about below.
The Key to Sexual Desire is Responsibility
The Key to Sexual Desire is Responsibility Frustration is the most common reason that I…
The Power of Checking In
The Power of Checking In In many relationships, people will get busy with their daily…
The Importance of a Sexual Compulsivity Relapse Prevention Plan
The Importance of a Sexual Compulsivity Relapse Prevention Plan Stopping a behavior pattern isn't an…
6 Rules for a Successful Open Relationship
6 Rules for a Successful Open Relationship Can open relationships ever work? Of course they…
How Thinking Systemically Can Help LGBT Families
How Thinking Systemically Can Help LGBT Families Have you ever heard of systemic therapy? Do…
Transgender Care and Trauma
Transgender Care and Trauma There are many assumptions that many people in the general population…
4 Ways Sex Therapy Can Help With Erectile Dysfunction
4 Ways Sex Therapy Can Help With Erectile Dysfunction For men who contend with Erectile…
Finding the Positives for Reprieve
Finding the Positives for Reprieve Inside and outside of the therapy office, I see many…
7 Things to Remember When You’re Sick
7 Things to Remember When We're Sick Don't let anyone tell you that there is…
Heteronormativity: What It Is and How It Affects You
Heteronormativity: What It Is and How It Affects You As both an affirmative and a…
Sex Goals… Identifying Your Needs Out of Your Sex Therapy
Sex Goals... Identifying Your Needs Out of Your Sex Therapy Throughout the therapy process, I…
5 Reasons Group Therapy Can Help with Sex and Love Addictions
5 Reasons Group Therapy Can Help with Sex and Love Addictions In offering group therapy…
How Couples Therapy Helps Heal Relationships After Cheating
How Couples Therapy Helps Heal Relationships After Cheating Have you recently cheated on your spouse…
Looking at all Sides in Social and Historical Traumas
Looking at all Sides in Social and Historical Traumas Our experiences shape us. We have…
Motivation to Change
Motivation to Change Finding motivation to make changes can be difficult. It can also be…
Can Sex Ever Be Good Enough?
Can Sex Ever Be Good Enough? Last Friday, Phillip McCulley and I had a chance…
Cancer and the Aftereffects
Cancer and the Aftereffects The impact of cancer can last for years after the actual…
Sexual Compulsivity and What Makes Sense to You
Sexual Compulsivity and What Makes Sense to You In this video, Michael Salas talks about…
The Power of Accepting Influence
The Power of Accepting Influence Relationship therapists and experts John and Julie Gottman utilize a…
Taking Steps to Connect Is All About Accepting Fear
Taking Steps to Connect Is All About Accepting Fear I recently came across a request…
The Real Danger of “50 Shades of Grey” Has Nothing to Do with Kink
The Real Danger of "50 Shades of Grey" Has Nothing to Do with Kink Some…
Valentine’s Day: Meaningful or Meaningless?
Valentine's Day: Meaningful or Meaningless? Valentine's Day is associated with relationships, love, and passion. But…
Gaslighting Makes the Real Unreal
Gaslighting Makes the Real Unreal Gaslighting is a term that is used for someone who…
Managing “Flooding” in Your Relationship
Managing "Flooding" in Your Relationship Flooding is a term that is used to describe intense…
When to Call it Quits in a Relationship
When to Call it Quits in a Relationship Deciding when to end a relationship is…
I Haven’t Had Any Trauma in My Life? Or Have I?
I Haven't Had Any Trauma in My Life? Or Have I? Trauma is something that…
Mindfulness for Help with Premature Ejaculation
Mindfulness for Help with Premature Ejaculation For men who are dealing with premature ejaculation, therapy…
Sex Addiction Can’t Be Diagnosed By Proxy, But it Still Can Feel Very Real
Sex Addiction Can't Be Diagnosed By Proxy, But it Still Can Feel Very Real In…
6 New Years Resolution Ideas for Authenticity, Romance, and Sexual Satisfaction
6 New Years Resolution Ideas for Authenticity, Romance, and Sexual Satisfaction Updated December 29th, 2017…
5 Ways to Rediscover Joy During the Holidays When You’re Single
5 Ways to Rediscover Joy During the Holidays When You're Single Holidays are often marketed…
Coping with Holiday Stress and Maintaining Our Relationships
Coping with Holiday Stress and Maintaining Our Realtionships In this video, I talk about how…
Sex Addiction Definitions and Treatment Options
Sex Addiction Definitions and Treatment Options Previously published on the Huffington Post On November 29th,…
Common Issues in Therapy for Open Relationship Styles
Common Issues in Therapy for Open Relationship Styles There are specific challenges for those who…
Should You Practice Generosity in Relationships After a Tough Year?
Should You Practicing Generosity in Relationships After a Tough Year? In Brenè Brown's most recent…
Letting Go to Deal with Erectile Dysfunction
Letting Go to Deal with Erectile Dysfunction Many men who are dealing with erectile dysfunction…
Relationship Hopelessness vs. Compromise
Relationship Hopelessness vs. Compromise It's hard to know when a couple should call a relationship…
The Benefit of Therapy for Partners of Sex Addicts
The Benefit of Therapy for Partners of Sex Addicts In this video, I discuss the…
Sex Therapy for Sexual Dysfunction in Men
Sex Therapy for Sexual Dysfunction in Men Whether you're dealing with erectile issues, low desire,…
The Critical Body-Mind Connection
The Critical Body-Mind Connection Many people struggle to name the emotion that they're experiencing. Whether…
When Do We Just Get to Trusting Again?
When Do We Just Get to Trusting Again? Whether a couple has dealt with a…
Taking Responsibility to Repair Your Relationship
Taking Responsibility to Repair Your Relationship All arguments and disagreements have two sides. As you'll…
Bisexual and Straight? Another Type of Mixed Orientation Marriage
Bisexual and Straight? Another Type of Mixed Orientation Marriage When we talk about mixed orientation…
The Benefits of LGBT Affirmative Therapy
The Benefits of LGBT Affirmative Therapy LGBT affirmative therapy may have been something that you've…
Is Porn a Health Crisis?
Is Porn a Health Crisis? Earlier this year, there was well-publicized political movement in Utah…
The Art of Joining Your Partner
The Art of Joining Your Partner Imagine driving fast down a highway, and someone drives…
Cheating and Infidelity Recovery
Cheating and Infidelity Recovery Cheating and infidelity commonly lead to relationship failure. This video is…
The Risks and Benefits of Emotional Exposure
The Risks and Benefits of Emotional Exposure Many of us stay armored up. We micro-manage…
Dealing with the Traumatic Aftermath of the Dallas Police Shooting
Dealing with the Traumatic Aftermath of the Dallas Police Shooting The shooting that took place…
Is Sex Addiction Real?
Is Sex Addiction Real? Why is it Controversial? In psychotherapy, there are often questions about…
Help! My Open Relationship Is Falling Apart!
Help! My Open Relationship Is Falling Apart! If you're in an open relationship, you know…
Am I a Sex Addict or Love Addict?
Am I a Sex Addict or Love Addict? When many clients come in for their…
LGBT Progress… and Barriers
LGBT Progress... and Barriers This month of LGBT pride month. Although the LGBT community has…
29 Relationship Issues and How to Solve Them
29 Relationship Issues and How to Solve Them Everyone experiences relationship issues at some point…
The Key to Treating Erectile Dysfunction: Body Awareness
The Key to Treating Erectile Dysfunction: Body Awareness There are old strategies to sex therapy…
Giving Up Your Agenda for Your Relationship’s Future
Giving Up Your Agenda for Your Relationship's Future Relationships are hard. There's no way around…
Why You Should Avoid Reparative Therapy
Why You Should Avoid Reparative Therapy For people who are coming to accept that they…
Being a Straight Spouse in a Mixed Orientation Marriage
Being a Straight Spouse in a Mixed Orientation Marriage If you're in a relationship where…
How Betrayal Cuts Into Connection, and How to Move Past It
How Betrayal Cuts Into Connection, and How to Move Past It When there is betrayal…
Emotional Struggles Later in Recovery
Emotional Struggles Later in Recovery After the dust settles in recovery, and things began to…
The Importance of Asking Questions
The Importance of Asking Questions When we really start to feel connected to another person,…
Is Valentine’s Day Important?… Sure… But Maybe Not As Well
Is Valentine's Day Important?... Sure... But Maybe Not As Well What is it about a…
Wonderfully Walkable: The Benefits of Casually Strolling with Your Partner
Wonderfully Walkable: The Benefits of Casually Strolling with Your Partner Dating has always had this…
Is It Possible to Recover After an Affair?
Is It Possible to Recover After an Affair? The short answer is "yes". Many relationships…
7 Reasons to Cuddle Your Partner ASAP
7 Reasons to Cuddle Your Partner ASAP Cuddling. It’s not just a cute and tender…
4 Things to Do When You Discover Your Partner is a Sex Addict
4 Things to Do When You Discover Your Partner is a Sex Addict Despite statistics…
Overcoming Grief: How to Cope with the Loss of a Loved One
Overcoming Grief: How to Cope with the Loss of a Loved One Sad, but true,…
Finding Time for Sex During the Holidays
Finding Time for Sex During the Holidays The holidays can be a great time to…
When Passion Fizzles: Is It Normal or a Reason to Run?
When Passion Fizzles: Is It Normal or a Reason to Run? Jack and Lisa have…
Holiday Recovery… Can It Wait?
Holiday Recovery... Can It Wait? From Thanksgiving through the New Year, prioritizing yourself can be…
Finding Mr. “Right for You”
Finding Mr. “Right for You” If this was 1968, and you were reading about Mr.…
A Great Relationship? Will Marriage Create a Disturbance in the Force?
A Great Relationship? Will Marriage Create a Disturbance in the Force? No one ever said…
The Underdiagnosis of Substance Use Disorders in Young People
The Underdiagnosis of Substance Use Disorders in Young People What are Substance Use Disorders? Most…
4 Tips to Cope with the Challenges of Your Partner’s Mid-Life Crisis
4 Tips to Cope with the Challenges of Your Partner’s Mid-Life Crisis Dealing with your…
What is Consensual Non-Monogamy?
What is Consensual Non-Monogamy? Consensual non-monogamy is sometimes abbreviated as CNM, creating a linguistic parity…
I Hate My Life! I’m Always Angry! How do I Change It?
I Hate My Life! I’m Always Angry! How do I Change It? Anger can be…
Men and Therapy: Get Past the Stigma and Feel Better!
Men and Therapy: Get Past the Stigma and Feel Better! Men benefit from therapy just…
3 Questions to Ask Yourself before You Come Out at Work
3 Questions to Ask Yourself before You Come Out at Work Today, many employers have…
What is Post Induction Therapy and How Can It Help?
What is Post Induction Therapy and How Can It Help? Post Induction Therapy is a…
If You’re Gay and Struggling to Accept Who You Are, Therapy can Help
If You’re Gay and Struggling to Accept Who You Are, Therapy can Help While LGBTQ…
The Importance of Therapy for Partners of Addicts
The Importance of Therapy for Partners of Addicts When you think of addiction therapy, who…
3 Ways Stress Contributes to Sexual Dysfunction
3 Ways Stress Contributes to Sexual Dysfunction Anxiety isn’t easy to deal with. It can…
What Is and Isn’t Healthy Masturbation?
What Is and Isn’t Healthy Masturbation? “You’ll go blind!” That, and a whole slew of…
What is Sex Positive Couples Therapy & How Can It Help You?
What is Sex Positive Couples Therapy & How can It Help You? Sex therapy is…
How can Substance Abuse Lead to Relationship Problems?
How can Substance Abuse Lead to Relationship Problems? Are drugs coming between you and your…
Another Dead End Relationship? Take These Steps to Break the Cycle
Another Dead End Relationship? Take These Steps to Break the Cycle You’re putting in far…
Why Should You Watch Out for Multiple Addictions While in Recovery?
Why Should You Watch Out for Multiple Addictions While in Recovery? Recovering from addiction isn’t…
Low Sexual Desire…How Sex Therapy Can Help
Low Sexual Desire...How Sex Therapy Can Help Some couples do not have sex, yet they…
Your Dream Relationship – Take These Steps To Make It Real
Your Dream Relationship – Take These Steps To Make It Real The summer heat is…
Love Addiction: What is It? What are the Symptoms? How is it Treated?
Love Addiction: What is It? What are the Symptoms? How is it Treated? Love addiction…
Comfort and Authenticity – Finding the Middle Ground
Comfort and Authenticity - Finding the Middle Ground On the surface, it seems like identifying…
Addiction Recovery: 5 Ways to Set Yourself Up for Success
Addiction Recovery: 5 Ways to Set Yourself Up for Success All the willpower in the…
When and How to Start Dating After Divorce
When and How to Start Dating After Divorce Is there an appropriate period to wait…
Handling Hard Conflict For Gay Couples
Handling Hard Conflict For Gay Couples Managing conflict is one of the most common reasons…
Erectile Dysfunction…How Sex Therapy Can Help
Erectile Dysfunction...How Sex Therapy Can Help For men who are dealing with erectile dysfunction, there…
Drugs Don’t Love You: 5 Signs It’s Time to Break Away
Drugs Don’t Love You: 5 Signs It’s Time to Break Away “Oh, I could quit…
7 Ways Couples Kill Their Love Life
7 Ways Couples Kill Their Love Life Ruining their love life is probably one of…
Couples Therapy: When Your Relationship is One Big Argument
Couples Therapy: When Your Relationship is One Big Argument What’s your relationship like? If you’re…
Exploring The Many Faces of Sexual Addiction
Exploring The Many Faces of Sexual Addiction Did you know that nearly 12 million people…
Our Sex Life Sucks…Should We Open Up Our Relationship?
Our Sex Life Sucks...Should We Open Up Our Relationship? It’s not uncommon for sex in…