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I was recently asked why I want to work with sex addicts, their partners and their families. There is no single or simple answer and as I reflected on the question I found four specific factors and one over-riding principle. First, the numbers. In 2011 there were an estimated 9
Many relationships end in complete chaos, but why do some just fizzle out? Long-term relationships are hard work. In the beginning, there’s a clear excitement that makes it easy for you to put a lot of energy into it. However, as years pass, some relationships become boring, unenjoyable, and overly
The development of boundaries begins early in life and is reinforced by the relationships we form during the remainder of our lives. As a child, you expect your environment to provide you with your wants and needs. The child has an expectation of safety, nourishment, love, trust, and security. As
“How do I know that I am an addict?” Over the course of a week, I hear this question at least 15 times. It is a very valid question. In the recovery community, there is a saying, “if you have to ask, that may be an indication that there is
Imposter syndrome was first coined in the article, by Pauline Clance and Suzanne Imes, “The imposter Phenomenon in High Achieving Women: Dynamics and Therapeutic Intervention” published in the Journal Psychotherapy Theory, Research, and Practice in 1978. Imposter syndrome refers to the individual who experiences persistent beliefs that they are really
In a previous article I talked about how couples can survive an affair. One major aspect of successful resolution is the restoration of trust. The number one question I’m asked by people recovering from infidelity is, “How do I restore trust?” There’s no easy answer and no quick fix but
Stepping out from under the radar can be an enormous risk. Allowing yourself to be noticed for who you are, and what you actually feel, can elicit criticism, judgment, and blame. Therefore, actually avoiding this altogether often seems like the best possible alternative. However, if we want to connect with
Make Bids For Connection For Your New Years Resolution When we think of a New Years Resolution, we tend to think of major, life changing goals. Sometimes we think of the superficial, such as I want to lose weight and look better. Sometimes we want to find a better job
Holidays are a stressful time for all of us. We have to leave our normal routines, buy gifts for people, and spend time with people that we have a long history with. It’s true that holidays can be a great time to catch up and share in experiences with those
There are many firsts in recovery. There is the first sporting event without alcohol. There is the first date without alcohol. There is the first holiday season without using. Facing a social situations without the comfort of liquid courage and the usual coping mechanisms can evoke anxiety. Preparing for those