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It’s easy to get caught up in the fantasy of how things could be if you would’ve responded differently or if others would have reacted differently. This line of thinking can give you a temporary sense of control. However, there is no contentment in analyzing how things could have been
Shame is something that we often try to avoid. Walking through a place of such vulnerability is understandably undesirable, because human beings are naturally quite pain aversive. Our aversion to pain doesn’t exclude emotional pain. However, can we grow without a certain level of discomfort? Can we really begin to
Severe depression is quite easy to identify. Most people know that they’re dealing with depression when they are experiencing these more extreme versions of this emotion. However, if you’re dealing with lower levels of depression, you may not even know this. You might feel a sense that there is something
When trying to make a change in your life, staying the course through a plan can leave you feeling insecure. It doesn’t matter if this change is to feel better emotionally, or if you are trying to change a habitual or even addictive behavior. Letting the plan takes its course
Assumptions can ruin relationships. When you assume or say to yourself that you “think” that you have an answer that you don’t have, you inevitably will fill in blanks with negative things. You may draw conclusions without any legitimate proof, which will create resentment towards your partner. There is a
Trying to control everything about your life will feed into a cycle of worrying that will not end. All the things that you don’t control can be intimidating, so it’s an understandable way to try to deal with uncertainty. However it will only lead further anxiety. We can’t control what
Overreaction is a label that can cause problems for you personally, as well as problems in your relationships. This word is often used as if it were a fact. We’re all guilty of having done this at some point in our lives. However, we’re the ones who typically pay the
Failure is in the definition and in the one who defines it. Some failures are more universal than others, but reactions to particular failures tend to be as individual as the experiences themselves. A failure alone is not necessarily a problem. Instead, the problem is in how you process the
The rescuer is one who tries to save, prevent, protect, or mold. This role has good intentions, which can make it difficult for you to identify when this is a role that you are taking on. It can seem as though it would be even more admirable when you are
Dead at 31. I can’t help but feel my heart sink when I think of this. It’s so easy to get pulled into the “what ifs” of this scenario. I’ll be the first to admit that I am not a huge fan of Glee. However, you don’t have to be