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Approaching 30 can be intimidating for a gay man, and 40 has been described to me as good as “dead” in the gay community. What are these cultural issues about? Many gay men struggle with feeling lonely, scared, and depressed as early as in their 30s, and they attribute this
If you find that you are unhappy with your relationship, this list of helpful tips may be beneficial to you. This is a list of common reasons why relationships struggle and even fail, with some quick advice on how to overcome this. 1. Jealousy about your partner’s personal relationships with
With New Years upon us, it is inevitable that many of you will be making New Years Resolutions. It seems to be a human, or at least a cultural behavior to set up goals along with calendar landmarks. “I will start exercising on Monday,” “I will stop smoking tomorrow,” etc.
Criticism, Defensiveness, and Changing the Dialogue Updated 3/24/22 Criticism and defensiveness can send your relationship into one of the most common cycles of any relationship. This is what we call an attack-defend cycle. A feeling of being attacked pushes you to react with a defensive response. This tends to end
Toxic Relationships Updated 3/22/22 All relationships have their struggles and all long-term relationships are hard work. However, some relationships exist with an extremely high level of stress without any end. In this post, I’m going to discuss why this happens, what to watch out for, and how to turn the
With Thanksgiving approaching, the Christmas Season is upon us. This can sound exciting or ominous, depending on your point of view. People can become quite stressed about this time of year. There are many family plans that take place, there are gifts to buy, and you are not supposed to
Overcoming Addictions, Don’t Wait Whether it’s a sex addiction, porn addiction or substance abuse issue, it’s common to put off making a change as long as possible. Part of this comes from the denial of there being an issue at all. The transition from a regular everyday behavior, to numbing
Illusions of Past Perfections When Dealing with Betrayal After the discovery of a betrayal, you can go through a whole series of turbulent feelings and beliefs. Some experience extreme anger, sadness, or depression. While others may go into denial. One of the common things that can happen with betrayal and
Choosing a Gay-Friendly Counselor Updated 2/28/22 When I originally wrote this article in 2011, the term “gay-friendly” was the mainstream way of labelling a therapist or professional who was open and comfortable with the gay community and gay individuals. However, as the decade evolved, so did the sense of what
Tired of being Tired: Simple Advice and tips to Getting More Sleep Sleep is a critical to our moods, ability to connect, sexual functioning and recovery. Here is a quick tip guide to getting a little more sleep to help you recovery. 1. Identify if you have a high level