Finding Your Calm When You’re Vulnerable There is no doubt about it. The last few months have been some of the most intense that we’ve experienced. Our climate and the coronavirus situation have made it difficult to feel calm. In some situations, we actually have no reason to feel calm.
Letting Go of Who You Want Someone to Be Whether it’s our romantic partners, our friends, or our parents, it’s human to want them to fit into a space that is compatible with your life. Sometimes we can even ignore our boundaries in order to keep that person in our
The Limits of Control in Extreme Vulnerability In this post, I’ll be using a term that could be controversial, which is “faith.” I want to begin with the disclaimer that faith is often used in relation to religion. I have no issues with people practicing any religion that feels authentic to
How to Identify Shame and Successfully Move Past It Shame doesn’t always get the “credit” it deserves for being so incredibly damaging. This feeling can make you believe you’re not good enough. It can make you think no one will ever love you. Or, it can remind you of your
Are You Battling Perfectionism? – How to Come Off the Winner For many of us, when we think of a perfectionist we imagine a person who has it all—a high-powered job, a pristine house, and an organized life. However, for those with perfectionism, the reality is far less sweet. The
The Importance of Asking Questions When we really start to feel connected to another person, we can split off parts of ourselves, so that we can maintain the connection. With increased connection comes increased risk of let-downs, hurt, and a feeling of disconnection. What many of us start to do
Comfort and Authenticity – Finding the Middle Ground On the surface, it seems like identifying with who you are and showing that to others should be something that is natural to us. However, this couldn’t be further from the truth. We have a lifetime of defense mechanisms that prevent ourselves
Stepping out from under the radar can be an enormous risk. Allowing yourself to be noticed for who you are, and what you actually feel, can elicit criticism, judgment, and blame. Therefore, actually avoiding this altogether often seems like the best possible alternative. However, if we want to connect with