Your Dream Relationship – Take These Steps To Make It Real
The summer heat is getting hotter and some of us or our friends might be finding summer flings, but what about those of us who want to make it last? What are some steps toward building that dream relationship about which many of us fantasize?
A study published by UK-based dating website, Mirrordating, tracked the most popular responses to what makes a perfect relationship. Out of 2,000 responders, here are ten of the most frequently cited signs of a dream relationship:
1. Being able to admit you’re wrong after a disagreement
2. Saying “I love you” before falling asleep
3. Sharing household chores, including cooking and cleaning
4. Having regular date nights
5. Being intimate twice a week
6. Similar taste in films
7. Two shared hobbies
8. Kissing five times a day
9. Three year, six months age gap
10. Cuddle five times a day
How many of these line up with your current relationship? Do these sound like things you’re looking for in your dream relationship?
While it’s great to have daydreams and statistics that might point you in a good direction, it’s probably more useful to have some more direction in steering yourself toward that perfect relationship.
Steps to Follow for Your Dream Relationship
Often, the best way to find yourself in a dream relationship is to start by finding yourself.
Learn to Love Yourself First
“A woman who is not happy with herself can never be happy for someone else.”
– Author and speaker, Toyi Ward
While it might sound romantic to say that being in a relationship is like finding your “other half,” putting two wholes together is much better than two halves. Sometimes we dream about finding something in another person that we perceive in ourselves as lacking. Don’t be dependent on someone else for your happiness.
Instead, own who you are and be comfortable being alone. If you don’t enjoy spending time with yourself and are insecure when not in a relationship, you will always feel emotionally dependent and insecure about the status of your relationship. You need to learn to love yourself first before you can fully learn to love someone else.
Love is About Giving
If you expect to receive love to fill some kind of lack within yourself, you’re setting yourself up for disappointment, because no one else can truly make you happy if you’re not happy within yourself. Your responsibility toward your dream relationship is to love yourself and others. When we love deeply and compassionately, we set ourselves up to be loved in return.
And after the honeymoon sparks fade, we can sometimes become complacent or even a bit bored in our relationship. However, living daily with a loved one is the path to an even greater and more profound intimacy than in the earlier stages of our relationship.
When we love with a spirit of giving, it also helps us to recognize the good in our partner and be willing to accept him or her for who he or she is rather than our mental image or ideal.
Balance and Communication
Finally, maintaining balance and communication is key to making that dream relationship a reality. Try to be a good listener, but don’t forget to be a good communicator as well. No one’s a mind reader, no matter how well you think you might know each other. While the UK dating survey found having similar taste in television shows was important, it’s probably more crucial to make sure you’re on similar pages when it comes to some of life’s big issues. Have a discussion about what a successful relationship entails and figure out the steps you need to take to make it happen.