Betrayal and Trauma and Getting Vulnerable Again A natural response to trauma is focusing on keeping yourself safe. Identifying safety is a natural part of the healing process. However, one of the most common things that people can struggle with after dealing with betrayal trauma is identifying when they should
Porn Addiction and the Pandemic Porn addiction is one of the most controversial topics in our field. Like other sex addictions, professionals argue whether it exists or not. It’s such a controversial topic, I even wrote a book about sex addiction and some of the controversies surrounding it! Needless to
Rebuilding Connection after Betrayal After a betrayal occurs in a relationship, it can feel impossible to reconnect. Many relationships and couples who have this experience come to realize that they had been disconnected for a long time. It’s true that the disconnection didn’t necessarily cause the betrayal itself, but it
The Porn Addiction “Fix” Illusion Almost every time I am working with a client who has a porn addiction or who is dealing with a compulsive pornography problem, they contend with an illusion. There is a belief that if they stop viewing pornography, then they will start to feel better
When Numbing Fear Turns to an Addiction We all numb. Stress, anxiety and fear can all get us to use food, sex, alcohol, drugs, and entertainment to help us cope with uncertainty and difficult times. In fact, numbing is largely human as it is a way of dissociating from situations
Relationship Trauma and Vulnerability Relationship traumas can include betrayal, domestic violence and discovery of addictions. All of these situations can cause trauma that can lead to being stuck in a repetitive cycle in your relationship, fear of making changes, a loss of a sense of who you are, and confusion
How to Launch Your Recovery for Out of Control Sexual Behavior Sex Addiction or out-of-control sexual behavior can damage your whole life. The reason that the term addiction has been used it that sex addiction often refers to repeated patterns or behaviors. These can include frequent masturbation, watching pornography, cybersex/chat
How to Launch Your Sex Addiction Recovery Sex addiction can damage your whole life. It can ruin relationships, cause your career to suffer, and take over nearly everything you do. Like any other addiction, sex addiction refers to repeated and compulsive patterns or behaviors. These can include isolated compulsive watching
Watch Out When You See a Therapist Advertise “Treating” Same-Sex Attractions The term same-sex attraction (or SSA) as it is often referred, is often codename for conversion or reparative therapy. If you see this term advertised by a therapist, you need to be very cautious. These practices are often built
How to Re-establish Your Sexual Relationship While Dealing with Sex Addiction Sex addiction can cause major problems in an intimate relationship. To identify and accept sex addiction are only the first steps toward recovery. Yet, re-establishing an intimate sexual connection with your partner is often part of the process, too.