Real Sex Therapy Sex Therapy can be confusing! Sex therapy is quite a broad term and it’s a field that treats a lot of different problems and issues. As a sex therapist, I’ve found this particular field is very confusing to clients. As someone who did his dissertation on men’s sexual
Loops and Patterns… How We Get Stuck and How to Get Out of Our Own Way Whether you’re trying to make changes in your relationship or changes for yourself, it’s likely that at some point you’ll get stuck, lose some traction, or take some steps backward. When you get into
When Sexual Health Advice Makes Your Symptoms Worse Believe it or not, but a lot of the sexual health advice out there can actually make your symptoms worse! We are surrounded by a lot of BS about sex and relationships. Whether it’s movies, magazines, or even pornography, there is a
Breaking Open Sexual Scripts to Reach Your Sexual Goals There are countless scripts that we learn about sex and relationships. When these scripts align with your erotic template and the template in your relationship, things can move along without an issue. However, when you have a problem with connection in
Why Is Sex So Difficult to Talk About? I see it time and again in sex therapy. One of the biggest barriers to having a fulfilling sex life is being able to open up and talk about sex. This is sometimes about communication and problems with communication in the relationship.
Wanting a Better Sex Life? Get Out of Your Head When you’re wanting to make a change, it makes sense that you would want to think in order to make a plan that will supposedly make a change. But what happens when this doesn’t work? People often focus on thinking
What is Sex Therapy? Sex therapy can be surprisingly confusing to people. Why exactly would people seek the help of mental health professionals for help with their sexual problems? Many of the sexual issues that people want help with include symptoms that people view as problematic. These can include issues
The Biggest Myth about Sex Therapy It can be difficult to identify what actually happens in sex therapy. I get a range of questions about sex therapy each week. Some ask if sex therapy is something like sex surrogacy (it’s not). Others wonder if you’ll be given just a few
Coping with Pressure to Overcome Sexual Avoidance When I’m working with people in sex therapy who are dealing with sexual avoidance, there is often a lot of pressure to enter back into a sexual arena. Some of that pressure can be self-inflicted. It’s important to remember that not much changes
My Role as a Sex Therapist in the Time of the Coronavirus I was recently asked what do I think my role as a sex therapist is at this time. That was a scary question for me because I wasn’t sure if I had an answer or even more scary