Wanting a Better Sex Life? Get Out of Your Head When you’re wanting to make a change, it makes sense that you would want to think in order to make a plan that will supposedly make a change. But what happens when this doesn’t work? People often focus on thinking
What is Sex Therapy? Sex therapy can be surprisingly confusing to people. Why exactly would people seek the help of mental health professionals for help with their sexual problems? Many of the sexual issues that people want help with include symptoms that people view as problematic. These can include issues
The Biggest Myth about Sex Therapy It can be difficult to identify what actually happens in sex therapy. I get a range of questions about sex therapy each week. Some ask if sex therapy is something like sex surrogacy (it’s not). Others wonder if you’ll be given just a few
Coping with Pressure to Overcome Sexual Avoidance When I’m working with people in sex therapy who are dealing with sexual avoidance, there is often a lot of pressure to enter back into a sexual arena. Some of that pressure can be self-inflicted. It’s important to remember that not much changes
My Role as a Sex Therapist in the Time of the Coronavirus I was recently asked what do I think my role as a sex therapist is at this time. That was a scary question for me because I wasn’t sure if I had an answer or even more scary
“Does Social Distancing Mean I Shouldn’t Have Sex?” COVID-19 (“the coronavirus”) is leaving a lot of confusion. As a sex therapist, I thought there was a topic that needs to be named and discussed. Really, we just don’t know a ton about this virus and new information keeps coming every
Relationship Trauma and Vulnerability Relationship traumas can include betrayal, domestic violence and discovery of addictions. All of these situations can cause trauma that can lead to being stuck in a repetitive cycle in your relationship, fear of making changes, a loss of a sense of who you are, and confusion
3 Tips for Talking Openly About Sex with Your Partner Sex is an integral part of any romantic, committed relationship. It doesn’t have to be the central focus, but, for most people, it does need to happen. It’s okay if you and your partner have different sex drives or different
What Are the Most Common Sex Therapy Issues for Women? Sex therapy is designed to help men and women—sometimes individually, sometimes as a couple. It’s meant to help men and women establish healthy sex lives and view sex itself as something healthy and positive, instead of having a skewed or
3 Tips for Making a Commitment to Changes with a Sexual Mismatch Everyone has different desires and needs, especially when it comes to sharing intimacy. Even when you’re sexually mismatched with your partner, it doesn’t mean your relationship is doomed. But, it does mean you both have to work together