How to Gain Sexual Confidence by Celebrating Your Wins

Whether you struggle with low self-esteem or sexual issues, gaining sexual confidence can feel impossible at times.

You’ve likely tried nearly everything to overcome the issues holding you back from intimacy. But success doesn’t usually happen overnight.

It’s easy to see the negatives and feel frustrated when your expectations aren’t met. Unfortunately, that can continuously set you back in terms of sexual confidence.

People often forget about their successes and get heavily focused on what isn’t working. It’s logical to think that if you could just fix what isn’t working by focusing on it a lot, things would change. However, it rarely works out that way. Think about it… you probably have already tried the approach of focusing heavily on what isn’t working.

Another approach is to celebrate your wins—no matter how big or small. This idea can help you to gain more confidence and award less power to your insecurities.

Here’s how you can celebrate your wins and build sexual confidence.

Think of Yourself as a Beginner

One way to make it easier to gain more victories in the bedroom is to have a beginner’s mindset. Whether you had an active sex life before or you’ve struggled with it for years, don’t hold yourself to specific expectations, especially at first.

Thinking of yourself as a beginner might seem like it would lower your self-esteem. But, it’s more about swallowing your pride to keep building your confidence piece by piece.

The less pressure you put on yourself, the easier it is to get a win and gain another building block of confidence.

Chronicle Your Wins

Sometimes, looking back on your successes can help you to gain more confidence. This approach is especially helpful during times where you’re feeling low.

Did you have a positive sexual experience? Write it down in a journal or diary. How did it make you feel? Did you do anything differently?

Keeping a personal log of these victories can help you see how far you’ve come. Not only will the approach boost your self-confidence, but it will encourage you to keep moving forward on your  journey toward better sexual health.

Share with Your Partner

One of the easiest ways to boost confidence in yourself is to get encouragement from someone else. In this case, that means getting it from your sexual partner.

If you have a positive sexual experience, they’ll likely know it. Or, you can talk to them about it more in detail. Learn how it made them feel and tell them how it made you feel.

A positive partner can boost you with words of encouragement and motivate you to keep moving forward.

A partner can even help you to turn an experience you would consider a loss into a win. If you’re like most people, then you tend to be tougher on yourself than others are of you. This “toughness” goes back to putting too much pressure on yourself, which can hinder your ability to perform the way you want.

Make Your Wins Personal

Everyone’s sexual wins will look different. It’s okay to create goals for yourself, but don’t let them define your sexual experiences. When you reach those goals in a natural, pressure-free way, the victories will feel even more significant.

Your wins can also come from emotional breakthroughs as well as physical ones. If you’ve gotten over a mental block or barrier that is keeping you from the sex life you want, consider that a victory. Carry it with you to your next moment of intimacy.

Sexual issues can cause problems in a relationship, and they can make your sexual confidence plummet. But your love life isn’t doomed forever. You can regain sexual confidence or build it from scratch by showing a willingness to take small steps on your journey.

If you’ve had issues with sexual dysfunction in the past and you want to know more about celebrating your wins, please feel free to contact us.

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