Shame and Sexual Dysfunction
Shame and Sexual Dysfunction In our sex therapy work with sexual dysfunctions , we find that shame is not far behind. We are taught that sex should just work. If you love someone and you're attract ...
Shame Reactivity versus Taking Responsibility
Shame Reactivity versus Taking Responsibility Shame and taking responsibility are not opposites. Whenever we have to take responsibility, we are going to be living with some element of shame. In fact ...
7 Things to Remember When You’re Sick
7 Things to Remember When We're Sick Don't let anyone tell you that there is no shame in being sick. That's simply not true. We may feel sadness, sympathy, empathy, or hurt for those who are dealing ...
Taking Steps to Connect Is All About Accepting Fear
Taking Steps to Connect Is All About Accepting Fear I recently came across a request from a journalist who was asking for ways that people can be "fearless" when trying to connect or make changes in ...
Why You Should Avoid Reparative Therapy
Why You Should Avoid Reparative Therapy For people who are coming to accept that they are gay, lesbian, bisexual, or transgender, there can be a lot of fear. One of the biggest things that you might ...
Using Empathy to Help Your Partner Heal After An Affair
Using Empathy to Help Your Partner Heal After An Affair The period after cheating has been discovered is painful, chaotic, and anxiety provoking. The vulnerability from the uncertainty of this experi ...
Keeping Authentic To Make Your Holidays Happy
Holidays are a stressful time for all of us. We have to leave our normal routines, buy gifts for people, and spend time with people that we have a long history with. It's true that holidays can be a g ...
It’s Not Your Fault
In traumatic situations, it's very common that the person who was traumatized blames herself for the event having happened. Whether this be the event itself, or what they feel they should've done, the ...
Laughing and Crying and Vulnerability
The shock of Robin Williams death by apparent suicide still hovers around today. How can people who appear happy be so unhappy on the inside? People put on a facade that they present to the public. We ...
Growing Through Shame
Shame is something that we often try to avoid. Walking through a place of such vulnerability is understandably undesirable, because human beings are naturally quite pain aversive. Our aversion to pain ...