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How Couples Therapy Helps Heal Relationships After Cheating Have you recently cheated on your spouse and currently experience deep remorse? Did you know that it can be traumatizing for both the partner who was cheated on as well as the partner who cheated? As a couples therapist, I look at
Motivation to Change Finding motivation to make changes can be difficult. It can also be contradictory. For example, in therapy, many clients will come with the belief that they want to make changes. In fact, a part of them does know that change would help them, benefit their lives, and
The Power of Accepting Influence Relationship therapists and experts John and Julie Gottman utilize a concept of healthy relationships that is based on their research. One of the areas that can either enhance a relationship or decrease closeness in a relationship is the acceptance of influence from a partner. In
Taking Steps to Connect Is All About Accepting Fear I recently came across a request from a journalist who was asking for ways that people can be “fearless” when trying to connect or make changes in their lives. It’s understandable to want to erase fear from your life when stepping
The Real Danger of “50 Shades of Grey” Has Nothing to Do with Kink Some have credited 50 Shades of Grey for bringing kink awareness into the mainstream. Despite this, there are people and professionals who continue to view such expression as unhealthy. This makes kink a taboo and sometimes
Valentine’s Day: Meaningful or Meaningless? Valentine’s Day is associated with relationships, love, and passion. But what does it really mean? Some people put a great deal of emphasis on this day. Meanwhile, others view this day as pointless and ignore it altogether. Valentine’s Day does come with its own sense
Gaslighting Makes the Real Unreal Gaslighting is a term that is used for someone who is being lied to, but also convinced that their reality isn’t actually real. This term is commonly associated with affairs and cheating. When one person in a relationship has solid evidence that something is wrong
Managing “Flooding” in Your Relationship Flooding is a term that is used to describe intense emotional reactions. Sometimes, these reactions can be displayed outwardly. They can include lashing out, yelling, screaming, and belligerence. There are reasons for this. This person might not believe that they are going to be heard
When to Call it Quits in a Relationship Deciding when to end a relationship is very difficult and complicated. Here, I try to offer a little clarity to a very difficult issue. If you’re thinking about ending your relationship, this video has a few things to think about relating to
Sex Addiction Can’t Be Diagnosed By Proxy, But it Still Can Feel Very Real In a CNN piece, sex therapist Ian Kerner discusses ongoing discussions on sex addiction. In his well-articulated piece, he also mentions how many people believe that they are living with a sex addict or porn addict.
