Secrets and Privacy One of biggest issues in relationships involves one particular division in boundaries. This is the difference between secrecy and privacy. This can be an issue in relationships that have a lot of jealousy, but it’s also common in relationships that have a history of betrayal. When someone
Loops and Patterns… How We Get Stuck and How to Get Out of Our Own Way Whether you’re trying to make changes in your relationship or changes for yourself, it’s likely that at some point you’ll get stuck, lose some traction, or take some steps backward. When you get into
Overfunctioning and Realigning Yourself Overfunctioning is a term that relates to the intensity and energy that we put into aspects of our lives, including work, our homes, relationships, and friendships. Many of us are wired to either over or underfunction in times of stress, crisis, and change. The wiring itself
Breaking Open Sexual Scripts to Reach Your Sexual Goals There are countless scripts that we learn about sex and relationships. When these scripts align with your erotic template and the template in your relationship, things can move along without an issue. However, when you have a problem with connection in
Making Goals from the Inside Out It’s pretty common when people come into therapy that there is a struggle for clients to identify what their goals are. Whether it’s goals for therapy or life goals in general, it’s impossible to avoid being influenced by information and people who surround us.
Betrayal and Trauma and Getting Vulnerable Again A natural response to trauma is focusing on keeping yourself safe. Identifying safety is a natural part of the healing process. However, one of the most common things that people can struggle with after dealing with betrayal trauma is identifying when they should
What is Sex Therapy? Sex therapy can be surprisingly confusing to people. Why exactly would people seek the help of mental health professionals for help with their sexual problems? Many of the sexual issues that people want help with include symptoms that people view as problematic. These can include issues
Rebuilding Connection after Betrayal After a betrayal occurs in a relationship, it can feel impossible to reconnect. Many relationships and couples who have this experience come to realize that they had been disconnected for a long time. It’s true that the disconnection didn’t necessarily cause the betrayal itself, but it
Coping with Pressure to Overcome Sexual Avoidance When I’m working with people in sex therapy who are dealing with sexual avoidance, there is often a lot of pressure to enter back into a sexual arena. Some of that pressure can be self-inflicted. It’s important to remember that not much changes
My Role as a Sex Therapist in the Time of the Coronavirus I was recently asked what do I think my role as a sex therapist is at this time. That was a scary question for me because I wasn’t sure if I had an answer or even more scary