Making Goals from the Inside Out It’s pretty common when people come into therapy that there is a struggle for clients to identify what their goals are. Whether it’s goals for therapy or life goals in general, it’s impossible to avoid being influenced by information and people who surround us.
Betrayal and Trauma and Getting Vulnerable Again A natural response to trauma is focusing on keeping yourself safe. Identifying safety is a natural part of the healing process. However, one of the most common things that people can struggle with after dealing with betrayal trauma is identifying when they should
What is Sex Therapy? Sex therapy can be surprisingly confusing to people. Why exactly would people seek the help of mental health professionals for help with their sexual problems? Many of the sexual issues that people want help with include symptoms that people view as problematic. These can include issues
Rebuilding Connection after Betrayal After a betrayal occurs in a relationship, it can feel impossible to reconnect. Many relationships and couples who have this experience come to realize that they had been disconnected for a long time. It’s true that the disconnection didn’t necessarily cause the betrayal itself, but it
Coping with Pressure to Overcome Sexual Avoidance When I’m working with people in sex therapy who are dealing with sexual avoidance, there is often a lot of pressure to enter back into a sexual arena. Some of that pressure can be self-inflicted. It’s important to remember that not much changes
My Role as a Sex Therapist in the Time of the Coronavirus I was recently asked what do I think my role as a sex therapist is at this time. That was a scary question for me because I wasn’t sure if I had an answer or even more scary
Relationship Trauma and Vulnerability Relationship traumas can include betrayal, domestic violence and discovery of addictions. All of these situations can cause trauma that can lead to being stuck in a repetitive cycle in your relationship, fear of making changes, a loss of a sense of who you are, and confusion
What is a Solid Relationship Foundation? It doesn’t matter if a relationship is struggling with communication, sex, passion, or anything else. No matter what issue a relationship is dealing with, the relationship needs to have a solid relationship foundation. However, in order to build this foundation, you need to know
Understanding “The Four Horsemen” and the Relationship Problems They Cause No relationship is perfect. Different personalities come into play. Arguments happen. Things go up and down. But, conflicts don’t generally destroy a relationship. So, what does? Relationship expert John Gottman has an uncanny “knack” for predicting divorce—with 93% accuracy. However,
3 Reasons Why People Have a Fear of Relationships Plenty of jokes and stereotypes circulate about having a fear of commitment, or even a fear of love. The truth is, though, that many of those stereotypes are in place for a reason. Fear of relationships is a real thing, and