The Treatment of Loneliness
It’s so important for us to find connections in our lives. Friendships, romances, and sexual relationships can all help with our sense of feeling connected. However, even when you have these things, you’re likely to have periods where you feel disconnected and lonely. It’s true that some of us are more extraverted than others, and thus draw more energy from the company of other people. However, isolation and loneliness can and do happen to everyone. Whether you’re introverted or extraverted, there are going to be times in your life when loneliness hits hard. So how should you cope with this? I’m here to give you some information and ideas to help you through this feeling as it takes ahold. Some research is showing that Americans are experiencing greater and greater levels of loneliness. This can be for different reasons. Social media can give an illusion of connection, but it often falls short. In fact, some suggest that it even makes us feel more lonely. I pick on social media here because there are a few reasons for this sense of loneliness.- Comparison. It’s natural with so many images to compare ourselves to others. What’s even worse is what we compare ourselves to isn’t even usually very authentic. People post the best moments, the best angles, the best filters, etc. This can set a tone. Your perspective can easily shift to imagining what it would be like if you had what these other people had on social media. In these situations, it doesn’t even matter if it’s real. The damage is already done.
- FOMO. The fear of missing out. A feeling that you should be doing something or engaging in something more than what you’re currently engaging in… or not. It’s OK to be still, without participating in something. However, when people curate information, it can look as though they’re constantly engaged with amazing, new experiences. This can lead you to experience and internal dialogue that asks you “what’s wrong with me?” Of course, nothing is wrong with you. You’re just living a normal life. But the question can already set off a chain of insecurities.
- Identities. Who are you? This is not that easy of a question to answer. Social media can make it seem as though identity is equivalent to authenticity. This often comes down to economics. This is why so many people say they “just want to be happy.” “Be” is the important word here. As if happiness is who you are. It’s actually just another feeling. Anyway, when you see people appear happy with their social media identity, it can leave you craving that identity.