Mindfulness for Help with Premature Ejaculation
For men who are dealing with premature ejaculation, therapy can help. In this sex therapy process, mindfulness is a critical part to any treatment plan for a client. Helping you connect your mind to your body can help with several issues. Men who are dealing with premature ejaculation can’t always identify the sensation that tells them that they’re reaching a point of no return. However, there are others who can, when they are better able to tap into it.
There are also men who are contending with levels of intense activation in relation to sex. They don’t know that their body is telling its own story. Thus, in therapy for premature ejaculation, you have to start to work to learn about this story, where it comes from, and how it needs to resolve.
For men who are dealing with this, shame, feelings of isolation, and frustration can reign supreme. However, this problem is usually quite treatable.
Sex therapy can offer techniques to help with all sorts of sexual dysfunctions. One of the ways that sex therapy can help is through the use of mindfulness. Mindfulness the building of a body-mind connection. It’s an understanding of sensations and emotions, as they are experienced within the body. It’s a focus on the present, rather than the future or the past. This requires practice, and sometimes patience as well.
Physical symptoms that represent a dysfunction are quite obvious, so they stand out. However, people can misunderstand emotions and how these emotions can lead to these physical outcomes. Therapy is one way that people can learn about this. Through the therapy process, emotions can be identified and the origins can be traced in a way that can reduce shame and enhance sexual openness and confidence.
Sometimes there is also a lack of sensation that can lead to sexual dysfunctions. There are times where people don’t have a mindful understanding of how their bodies respond to sexual activation. There might be more subtle types of activation that occur, which go unrecognized. When people have no problems, these sensations and experiences can go without being recognized with no issue at all. However, when there are problems, understanding these processes in the body can help. This understanding can open up new responses and enhance the personal experiences of sex.
Through the process of mindfulness, men can also unpack meaning that they have developed around sexuality, because of the problem they’re experiencing. For example, when there are multiple negative experiences linked to premature ejaculation, there could be a meaning that you can only be accepted sexually when you overcome this problem. Although it’s likely that you’ll overcome this problem, this doesn’t mean that you’re unworthy of sex, or even love. Mindfulness can help to separate these links.
When people separate some of these meanings, they tend to have more of the sexual experiences that they’re wanting to have. There is more freedom, and the body is allowed to experience this freedom of experience, sensation and emotions in a more open way.
The Critical Body-Mind Connection
Many people struggle to name the emotion that they’re experiencing. Whether it’s sadness, anxiety, anger, or frustration, it can be difficult for them to put a finger on the actual emotion. It can seem like this is harmless, normal, and just a typical part of life. There is a problem with this, however. Just because you can’t name an emotion, doesn’t mean that it isn’t impacting your decisions, interactions with your partner, and ability to reach your goals.
This connection is critical. Many mental health professionals believe that we’re feeling people who sometimes think about the feelings that we have. What this can mean is that even when we don’t notice the emotion that we’re experiencing, it’s still there. For example, your partner might say something, you might notice feeling annoyed by this, but then feel like you quickly get over it. Then later on you are irritable with your partner for “no reason.” This could be related to emotion that is lingering around from an earlier annoyance, but hasn’t had a chance to be released.
Sometimes emotions are subtle, so your body can give you clues as to what you’re experiencing. This is no more evident than when shame is impacting you and how you feel. Sometimes, when we experience shame, it’s so obvious, there’s no denying what is happening. However, it’s sometimes more subtle as well. In these situations, we can react to it, which can make us disconnect from those who we want to connect to.
When you recognize the signals that your body gives you to tell you that this is what you’re experiencing, you can take a step back. You can give yourself a little time. You can reach out to someone for support. You’re less likely to just react, and say something that you regret.
Such recognition is not easy. Minor emotions can be complicated to recognize. Many times people will say that they aren’t feeling anything when these minor feelings are there.
Emotions are an important part of connecting. Recognizing how you feel within your entire body can help you feel more bonded. You’ll recognize the importance of subtle emotions. Yet, it’s not only the positive emotions that you’ll recognize. You’ll also recognize minor, negative emotions before they erupt. This will help you avoid hurting your partner and relationship, while also helping you to circle back around and talk with your partner about what you’re feeling.
A body mind connection is also important in sexual connection. Sex is a type of communication that involves the body. People can certainly have sex while being unaware of the story that their body wants to communicate. However, there can be problems with lacking awareness, because there is less to build on. When you know what you’re body is wanting to share, you have a story of desire that you can grow. This then becomes something that you can share with your partner.
So whether you’re looking to heal old wounds, build on current relationships, or grow personally, mindfulness is important. It can be a difficult and frustrating journey, but with time and patience, you’ll be aware of an interaction that is already occurring that can help you for the rest of your life.
