5 Basic Communication Strategies That Will Improve Your Relationship
You’ve probably heard before that communication is the key to any successful relationship. While that’s true, that doesn’t mean it’s an easy “key” to follow.
The reality is, everyone has different ways of communicating. When your communication style doesn’t easily gel with that of your partner’s, it can create some bumps in your relationship.
Thankfully, there are strategies you can put into practice. Not only will these strategies improve the way you communicate, but they can even improve your relationship.
1. Listen Closely and Actively
When most people think about communication, they think about talking and expressing themselves. But, a huge part of communicating (especially in a relationship) is listening.
That means more than just hearing the things your partner says. It means practicing active listening. Show them that you’re engaged. Asked questions. Respond to the things they’re saying.
Not only will you learn more about your partner and your relationship by actively listening, but you’ll let them know that you truly care about them and what they have to say. This simple change in the way you listen can positively impact your level of trust in the relationship.
2. Don’t Make Assumptions
When there is a lack of communication in a relationship, it makes it easy to assume things. Unfortunately, assumptions typically aren’t all that positive. When you try to guess or assume what your partner is thinking or feeling, it could lead to resentment, arguments, or worse.
If you feel like something is going on with your partner, ask them about it. If something is weighing on you, tell them about it.
The secrets you keep in your relationship don’t have to be glaring and obvious for them to do some damage. Be open and honest, and don’t assume your partner feels a certain way without asking them.
3. Check In with Them
It’s easy to get caught up in the stress and schedules of everyday life. Things might seem like they’re okay because you’re following the same routine you always do. But, that isn’t always the case.
So, it’s a good idea to check in with your partner from time to time. Ask them how their day is going. Ask them how their week has been going. Or, ask them how they feel about your relationship at any given time.
If they’re not happy with something, they’ll be appreciative that you’re asking. From there, you can talk it out and work out any bumps in the road before they become bigger issues for you as a couple.
A check-in only takes a few minutes, and it can have a big impact on how openly you’re willing to communicate with each other.
4. Show Gratitude
Here’s a simple one: When was the last time you said “thank you” to your partner?
Gratitude can have a huge impact on your relationship, and it’s a positive way of communicating. Did your spouse bring you a cup of coffee this morning? Did they pick the kids up from school? Are you just grateful for their presence? Let them know!
Showing gratitude not only helps to boost the confidence of your partner, but it can motivate them to show gratitude toward you, too.
5. Focus On Timing
One of the problems some couples face when it comes to communicating is not timing things out correctly. You don’t necessarily need to pencil your partner into your schedule when you want to have a conversation. But, if you need to talk about something serious, it shouldn’t be as you’re driving with them to work, or when you’re watching your favorite television show.
You should have time specifically set aside for your relationship, and communication. Avoid distractions when you’re actively communicating with your partner about something important, so you both can feel connected to each other.
Communication may be one of the biggest keys to a healthy relationship, but it’s often something we take for granted. Start using some of these strategies in your relationship, and you’re bound to see a difference in how connected you feel.
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