How to Cope When Sexual Dysfunction Creates Fear of Having Sex
Sexual dysfunction affects people in many ways. We tend to think it’s just a physical problem. But it creates many mental and emotional issues, too. It also can come from these problems as well.
The emotional impact that sexual dysfunction can have on someone and their partner may create a lot of issues. In fact, it can actually create a fear of having sex or being intimate.
There is good news however. The fear that comes from sexual dysfunction doesn’t have to last forever. You can still find intimacy with your partner and work through these struggles together.
By having that hope, you can learn to cope with sexual dysfunction and continue to work through it.
Identifying Your Fears
If you struggle with sexual dysfunctions, there are many different fears that could come into play when it comes to having sex.
One of the biggest fears people with this condition struggle with is an inability to “perform.” Society puts a lot of pressure on both men and women to be “good in bed.” The reality is, no one needs to know or care how well we perform sexually except the partner(s) we choose to be with .
Still, it’s hard to let go of that pressure and stigma. If you already know you aren’t going to be able to perform in bed, it can cause a lot of anxiety and fear and may cause you to avoid any type of sexual activity whatsoever.
Another major fear is disappointing your sexual partner. This is often another fear put in place by societal pressures. You may not feel like you’re a “whole” person if you can’t sexually satisfy your partner, and it can even cause embarrassment.
Coping With a Fear of Having Sex
If your sexual dysfunction is keeping you from having sex with your partner, don’t lose hope.
First of all, it’s important to understand that intimacy and sex are not exclusive. There are many other ways to be intimate with your partner, emotionally and physically.
Understanding this can actually help to alleviate some of the pressures of sex, and may even make some of the fear subside.
Try to find different ways to be intimate with your partner. Having a conversation about it can help you both to feel more comfortable. Even talking about intimacy can bring you closer emotionally.
If you’re scared to have sex, it’s beneficial to be open and honest with your partner. Explain what your fears are, and why you think you’re struggling. If you know the reason for your sexual dysfunction, don’t be afraid to explain it to your partner.
Open communication will help your partner to understand where you’re coming from. It can also make a difference in your own sexual satisfaction.
Finding Comfort in Counseling
If you can’t get over your fear of having sex, you may benefit from the help of a therapist or counselor.
Counseling can also help you with the underlying cause of sexual dysfunction, too, if it’s linked to a psychological or emotional issue. Sometimes, something as simple as lifestyle changes and healthier habits can treat sexual dysfunction. So, getting to the bottom why you’re struggling can make a big difference.
Struggling with sexual dysfunction is often frustrating. It can also be embarrassing, especially if you have a consistent partner and you feel as though you’re letting them down.
Don’t let the fear of having sex stop you from having a meaningful, intimate relationship. Feel free to contact me today. Together, we can work through these fears and help you to find more ways of showing intimacy for your partner.
