The Success of Failure
We value success. Nobody, who sets out to reach a goal, wants to fail, but failure is inevitable. Part of being human is being fallible. If you can't take anything else away from growing older, take a ...
Learning How to Feel
A common, yet underestimated problem that many of my clients face is learning to accept and experience emotions. Feeling "numb" is something that many people who enter into therapy discover as a probl ...
When To Say “It’s Over”
Whether or not to let go of a long-term relationship can be an extremely difficult decision to make. There are many aspects to relationships that complicate this decision. Many times people have child ...
When It’s Time to Say “I’m Sorry”
Pride can be one of the most difficult things to overcome. When we were growing up we are taught to "feel proud" about ourselves and what we do. But when does pride cross the line to stubbornness? Thi ...
Improving Communication for an Improved Sex Life
Some couples do not have sex, and they have no relational problems because of this. However others struggle with their sexual relationship to such a degree that they are willing to end their relations ...
Bullying, Suicide, and Violence Amongst Young Gay Males
Young gay males have a disproportionately higher suicide rate than do young straight males. They often deal with being bullied, harassed, and tormented by their peers, unless they hide their sexual or ...
Rising Above Addiction as a Label
Knowing whether or not you are addicted to a particular behavior is not always easy to identify. Part of the problem with this lies in the vagueness of how addiction can be defined. This is one of the ...
The New “R” and “R”: Relaxation and Recovery
When recovering from any type of substance abuse or emotional problem, relaxation is one of the most important, yet unrecognized skills that needs to be learned. We live busy lives and forget the impo ...
Coming Out Advice for Gay, Lesbian, and Bisexual People
Coming Out Advice for Gay, Lesbian, and Bisexual People updated 3/20/22 A couple of years ago, I was contacted by a reporter who was working on an article about gay and lesbian individuals coming ...
The Language of “You” vs. The Language of “I”
The Language of "You" vs. The Language of "I" I would say that the most common problem prevents couples from improving their relationships is communication. Gottman Therapy therapy is one of the m ...