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Breaking Open Sexual Scripts to Reach Your Sexual Goals There are countless scripts that we learn about sex and relationships. When these scripts align with your erotic template and the template in your relationship, things can move along without an issue. However, when you have a problem with connection in
The Cost of Machismo and Marianismo While gender stereotypes are not new topics, Latinx individuals face a nuanced experience of what it means to “fit in” to their respective gender identity. Latinx women are socialized throughmarianismo to exemplify “virginal” attributes, family-first mentality, and self-sacrifice. Latinx men socialized through machismo tend to subscribe
Making Goals from the Inside Out It’s pretty common when people come into therapy that there is a struggle for clients to identify what their goals are. Whether it’s goals for therapy or life goals in general, it’s impossible to avoid being influenced by information and people who surround us.
Contending with Porn Addiction Last year was a remarkably controversial and loaded year as we talk about porn addiction. The topic of porn addiction is already a loaded and heated topic. Extreme opinions argue whether this problem exists or not. However, in the last year, we saw more people than
The Messiness of Mistakes Mistakes… we all make them right? They’re only human right? So then why are they so difficult for us to deal with. Whether it’s us beating ourselves up for making them or it’s struggling to handle it when someone else makes them, many of us struggle
Why Is Sex So Difficult to Talk About? I see it time and again in sex therapy. One of the biggest barriers to having a fulfilling sex life is being able to open up and talk about sex. This is sometimes about communication and problems with communication in the relationship.
Betrayal and Trauma and Getting Vulnerable Again A natural response to trauma is focusing on keeping yourself safe. Identifying safety is a natural part of the healing process. However, one of the most common things that people can struggle with after dealing with betrayal trauma is identifying when they should
Keys to Coping with Hate Crimes and Trauma We have seen so many different violent crimes over the courses of our lifetimes, but especially in the past year. It can be so difficult to know how to cope. The most recent situation with the murders of asian women in spas
Wanting a Better Sex Life? Get Out of Your Head When you’re wanting to make a change, it makes sense that you would want to think in order to make a plan that will supposedly make a change. But what happens when this doesn’t work? People often focus on thinking
What is Sex Therapy? Sex therapy can be surprisingly confusing to people. Why exactly would people seek the help of mental health professionals for help with their sexual problems? Many of the sexual issues that people want help with include symptoms that people view as problematic. These can include issues